I think it’s human nature to think of vulnerability as a negative thing – it triggers mental images of being weak, exposed, at risk. But there are times when vulnerability is paramount to the human experience, and enriches our relationships immensely. There are also times when we need to choose to be vulnerable, when it might not come naturally to us but we have to do it anyway. It’s about being voluntarily vulnerable. [Read more…]
Having a newborn is an exhilarating experience, but it can also be exhausting, overwhelming and a very steep learning curve!! There are some things you can be prepared for, and some things you simply have to figure out along the way. Everyone is going to have different styles of parenting, babies are all very different in nature and personality, and so there will be a lot of variance in how people respond to, and cope with, those early days and weeks. Today I’m focussing more on “stuff” (my favorite must-have’s for the first six weeks) – next week I’m going to write a part two that talks more about emotional tips and strategies. [Read more…]
There’s nothing that fuels fatigue quite like having small children in the house (or really any children in the house!) – especially if you’re breastfeeding, and/or they’re not sleeping through the night, and/or your hormones aren’t quite back to normal after your pregnancy. Couple that with having a chronic time shortage to shop for groceries and prepare healthy meals, and it can be a recipe for exhaustion. Here are a few nutritional strategies for overcoming mama fatigue:-
Braving the silence with our children is not easy. I was reading another one of Janet Lansbury’s brilliant posts on parenting, and it really struck a cord. She was reflecting on how hard it is for us just to be present with our children, to sit in silence with them during those moments that they might be upset, but they might also well need to be given the space to process what they’re experiencing. It’s so easy to rush in with distractions, consolations, advice or fixing. Even soothing and comforting, as in “shhhhhh, it’s going to be ok, it’s all ok” can take away from their need for simply your presence and their own thoughts and feelings.
The RIE parenting philosophy is one that has had a profound impact on me and the way I parent. I’m not at expert at it, and there are some parts of it that don’t necessarily work for us, but what I love is the emphasis of RIE on respect for the baby and child. Even from infancy, when most people assume their baby won’t understand anything that’s going on around them, RIE proponents encourage parents to talk to their child, tell them what they’re doing, and treat them with the same respect they would treat an adult. [Read more…]
I must say, we have done a lot of international travel given we have a child under two. She went to Australia twice in her first year, and we also took our belated honeymoon to Italy with her in tow when she was 11 months old. We also flew to Washington DC for a conference when she had just turned one. Traveling with a baby or toddler can have its moments, but here are six tips for surviving airline travel with little ones that might make it easier:
I’ve always thought of myself as a semi-crunchy mama – whatever that means!! I didn’t know going into this exactly what would become important to me in the parenting journey, but it turns out that how I thought things would be is not always how they’ve turned out to be!
The things I associate with being A Crunchy Mama include: natural childbirth, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, cloth diapering, baby-wearing, and baby-led weaning to name a few. Some of those things I’d never even heard of prior to having my own child (baby-led what?!), and some of them I just knew I wouldn’t be signing up for. [Read more…]