I’ve always loved to get rid of stuff – I love the feeling of decluttering and creating space. On this last trip, I read a great book called The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, by Marie Kondo. It put into words exactly what I’ve always felt – that if you have too much clutter, and too many old things that aren’t any use any more in your home, then chances are you have those things in your life too, and that you might be closing off your life to new possibilities. [Read more…]
Hi everyone! I’m in the beautiful Dominican Republic this week – it doesn’t much feel like we deserved a vacation after almost 3 weeks in Australia, but I had won a trip and it was scheduled for this week so we decided not to pass up the opportunity. It’s amazing how friendly and happy the people are here, they all clearly love children, and Valentina is happily running around saying “hola” to anyone who will glance her way!! It’s nice to get into a different culture – I don’t know Spanish well, we were never taught that in Australian schools; and everyone here in the resorts does speak English very well. Tourism is obviously a large part of their economy. [Read more…]
I hope your 2016 is off to a phenomenal start. I’ve had a refreshing couple of weeks in Australia and am now back in San Diego, back into routine including writing my blog again! On reflecting about what I want to do in 2016, and how to best achieve positive change, thought of five things that I’m going to do to assist growth and change without putting undue pressure on myself or being unrealistic about expectations. Here are five strategies to get the most out of 2016:-
I think it’s human nature to think of vulnerability as a negative thing – it triggers mental images of being weak, exposed, at risk. But there are times when vulnerability is paramount to the human experience, and enriches our relationships immensely. There are also times when we need to choose to be vulnerable, when it might not come naturally to us but we have to do it anyway. It’s about being voluntarily vulnerable. [Read more…]
Last week I wrote about some of the items that I found to be essential to have in the first few weeks of having a newborn in the house. This week I want to focus more on some of the emotional strategies that can help. Some of them I learned (the hard way) from my own experience, some I have heard repeatedly from other mamas. Bringing a newborn into a family is such a special time, but it certainly comes with it’s own challenges, not only in the adjustment, but also in navigating many of the interpersonal relationships and expectations of others. [Read more…]
Happy Thanksgiving!! I know I’m a day late, but I was lazily relaxing at home yesterday and cooking dinner for Dave and Valentina so I took the day off writing. I loved the cooler weather, the rain, and the coziness of it all – Dave built a log fire, we had a nice dinner and watched back-to-back episodes of Downton Abbey!
Since I’m still feeling very much in holiday mode, I thought today I would just write about where we’re at in the fertility journey and share a few thoughts about it.
Having a newborn is an exhilarating experience, but it can also be exhausting, overwhelming and a very steep learning curve!! There are some things you can be prepared for, and some things you simply have to figure out along the way. Everyone is going to have different styles of parenting, babies are all very different in nature and personality, and so there will be a lot of variance in how people respond to, and cope with, those early days and weeks. Today I’m focussing more on “stuff” (my favorite must-have’s for the first six weeks) – next week I’m going to write a part two that talks more about emotional tips and strategies. [Read more…]
I’ve always been one to pursue personal growth and development – partially because I had a few things I had to overcome from my upbringing if I wanted a truly free and happy life; but it’s just always been in my nature to want to grow and evolve. In hindsight, although there were many books, many attempts at meditation, many times trying to develop a passion for yoga, and many courses and retreats, there are three key pursuits that helped to propel me to the happy and in my opinion, successful life, I enjoy today. [Read more…]
Braving the silence with our children is not easy. I was reading another one of Janet Lansbury’s brilliant posts on parenting, and it really struck a cord. She was reflecting on how hard it is for us just to be present with our children, to sit in silence with them during those moments that they might be upset, but they might also well need to be given the space to process what they’re experiencing. It’s so easy to rush in with distractions, consolations, advice or fixing. Even soothing and comforting, as in “shhhhhh, it’s going to be ok, it’s all ok” can take away from their need for simply your presence and their own thoughts and feelings.
The RIE parenting philosophy is one that has had a profound impact on me and the way I parent. I’m not at expert at it, and there are some parts of it that don’t necessarily work for us, but what I love is the emphasis of RIE on respect for the baby and child. Even from infancy, when most people assume their baby won’t understand anything that’s going on around them, RIE proponents encourage parents to talk to their child, tell them what they’re doing, and treat them with the same respect they would treat an adult. [Read more…]